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Hold an Idea Lightly - A Key Lesson for Dialogue

One of the things that gets us into trouble when we talk to people with whom we disagree, whether that disagreement is about politics or problems we’re facing at work, is that we come to such meetings with firm ideas about a solution. Thus, we often think that our task is to convince others of what we know to be right. That’s all pretty understandable. 

But there‘s another way to think about our ideas – the dialogue way.

Being engaged in a dialogue still requires us to be prepared – to think through what would be the best answer – to have done our homework, so to speak. But then when we arrive at a meeting, the dialogue way is to hold that idea lightly.

What does it mean to hold an idea lightly? When I think of holding something lightly I think of Butterfly holding a fragile Christmas ornament in my hand, or of how a butterfly lands on a delicate flower, barely bending it’s stem. Holding an idea lightly acknowledges that all that we know is subject to change as we open ourselves to the knowledge and wisdom of others. Bohm says, “We have to have enough faith in our worldview to work from it, but not that much faith that we think it’s the final answer.”

It’s really quite wonderful that the ideas we hold can change -that we’re not stuck with the ideas we had as teenagers or what we thought before we became parents or we learned the hundred and one lesson that life teaches us. That our ideas can change is what human development is all about. Without that possibility, we’d all still be in the Stone Age.  

When Bohm asks us to “hold an idea lightly” he is acknowledging that we enter any dialogue with ideas in our mind – whether those are facts we have accumulated from our schooling or understandings life has taught us. He does not say we should not have such ideas, only that when those ideas are challenged in dialogue, we are willing to view them as “possibilities” rather than “truth.” That’s not easy because we get very attached to our ideas. And when someone challenges them we feel like they're challenging who we are. But we need to remember that we are not our ideas! Ideas are the necessary, temporary, constructions our minds make. They are often very clever, certainly very useful - that is, until we encounter a better idea. We should all feel very grateful that we are not our ideas because that would close off the possibility of learning and changing.


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